Question: My parents were divorced when I was very young. Before I left home, Mother went on to three more marriages, and Dad, to two. Recently I was divorced from my wife of only five years. I'm concerned about my future ability to have a successful marriage. I want a wife and family, but not if it means going through the stress and pain of another divorce. How can I tell if I'm capable of being a good husband?
Answer: You are not necessarily doomed to repeat your parents' pattern. However, it does sound as though you were not given much of an example in commitment or problem-solving, and it would be wise to seek therapy in these fields. Before you marry again I would strongly recommend premarital counseling to help you and your prospective spouse.
Q: My son and his fiance have decided that, since his mother and I are divorced and not speaking, they will give their own wedding. They intend to invite only their friends and parents, no one else. My ex-wife has remarried and thinks it's a great idea. I am single and feel it's very unfair that I be the only person there without someone with whom to share the occasion. Don't you think I should be allowed to ask a date?