Reading the Viewpoints of William F. Dwyer II and Ian I. Mitroff in "Should Job Be a Personal Relationship--or Strictly Business?" (Nov. 24), and given my experience as a business consultant and a psychologist, I find it necessary to propose a third position, which integrates the views of the authors.
With qualification, I can agree with Dwyer's suggestion to employees to regard their jobs as a business arrangement. However, I am quite certain that his advice is likely to go unheeded. The difficulty lies in the fact that one's job becomes the symbolic repository for many of a person's unmet wishes. Thus, the significance with which the job is imbued is directly related to the degree and intensity of unfulfilled personal needs.
Further, the work context tends to replicate family dynamics so that one's position on the job mirrors one's role in his or her family of origin. For instance, the son who was the family scapegoat is likely to find that he is also scapegoated on the job. Were we to accept Dwyer's advice, we would have to renounce the mutual dependence, or interdependence, of employer and employee.
In fact, though, that relationship requires both parties in order to exist.