It was with regret that I read the account of Phyllis Chesler's campaign against equal consideration of fathers in the raising of children. Although my own experience with divorce and the uncertainty of custody issues was pretty much determined more than 10 years ago (but, I suppose, never really completely settled), I still remember the pain and confusion, and I understand how those feelings can interrupt normal, rational judgments. This appears to have happened to Chesler.
Shortly after my daughter was born almost 12 years ago, I was divorced from her mother. After about two years of a joint custody arrangement (very rare in 1974), we agreed that since she spent most of the time with me, (we would) change the arrangements to full-time paternal custody.
Of course, she has continued to enjoy regular visits with her mother since that time. I have raised her without the help of a live-in maid, "help from my mother," or assistance from a substitute full-time female role model.
Living with her father has not created any real handicaps for my daughter. She is well-adjusted, does well in the gifted program at her school and pursues a very vigorous and successful athletic schedule in gymnastics.