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The Next Question: What About His Kids? : Families: The trial is over and they have their dad back, but the upheaval in the lives of Sydney and Justin Simpson is still going strong, experts say.

October 06, 1995|ELIZABETH MEHREN | TIMES STAFF WRITER

Until two days ago, they had not seen their father since their mother's funeral, hardly the happiest moment for anyone in the Simpson-Brown families.

And now with the possibility that 9-year-old Sydney Simpson and her brother, Justin, 6, may return with O.J. Simpson to the big house in Brentwood where they lived before their parents separated, experts say it may not be the most auspicious of family reunions.

"I don't think there is a child psychologist in America who isn't quaking for the developmental futures of those two kids," said Peter Gellis, a psychologist and sociologist who runs the Family Violence Research Program at the University of Rhode Island.

A readjustment with their father is almost bound to be rocky, specialists say. But openness, giving the children age-appropriate responses to questions they will inevitably have, can help smooth the transition. A gradual reunification also may help ease the children's move back to a home that was the scene both of happier and unhappier times for them. Specialists also say an objective outsider--ideally, a therapist or someone else who is trained in child adjustment--should be close at hand in the critical early weeks and months of the restructured Simpson family.

The complications of reuniting the Simpson family are especially thorny because, as Gellis observed, "Yogi Berra was wrong. Even when it's over, it's not over."

Although O.J. Simpson was acquitted of all charges in the murders of Nicole Brown Simpson and Ronald Goldman, much of America remains convinced of his guilt. Both the Brown and Goldman families have filed civil lawsuits against Simpson, which may require extensive court appearances. Simpson will presumably speak publicly, perhaps often, about the case at some point and may write a book.

So while the verdict was final, the case is by no means neatly sewn up.

With the family disrupted first by divorce, then by the death of the children's "key psychological caretaker," Sydney and Justin will lack a psychological anchor in their father's Westside mansion, Gellis said.

Children "absolutely, positively have to have a key person who is there for them unconditionally," he explained, and for a variety of reasons, "men rarely take the role of psychological caretaker."

Days after the death of their mother, Gellis went on, "the fallback position of Dad" was eliminated for the Simpson children with the wild and weird freeway odyssey of their father and his friend Al Cowlings in the legendary white Bronco.

Further, said Gellis and others who study children and the family, the Simpson children have experienced major disruption by abruptly moving in with the parents and sisters of Nicole Brown Simpson in Orange County. Their 16-month sojourn at their grandparents' home may have been a noble attempt at stability, and for adults, such a hiatus might be easily assimilated. But for children as young as Sydney and Justin, a year and four months represents a huge chunk of their lives, during which their father's absence has to have been a troubling issue.

As Gellis noted, "They haven't been living in a Skinner box, and they haven't been living in a bubble." No matter how hard adults may have tried to shield them from the circumstances of their mother's death, as well as their father's incarceration and trial, those facts almost undoubtedly gnawed at the children.

"I'm sure there will be a honeymoon with Dad," Gellis said. But a possible move back to Rockingham "is now another major move, another disruption. And Dad has yet to demonstrate a stable lifestyle."

From the very moment that Simpson's not guilty verdict was announced on Tuesday, "The first thing that came to my mind was, 'What about the children?' " said Lenora Poe, a psychologist in Berkeley who works with families who have experienced separation through incarceration. Poe also treats families where grandparents are raising their grandchildren.

Based on her experience, Poe said, "I am very, very concerned for these children."

Like others in her field, Poe urged that together, the Simpson children and their father "get some kind of psychological help." In working with children who are reunited with parents after incarceration, Poe said she uses a number of therapeutic aids, particularly art therapy, to help young people sort through their confusion.

Ambivalence, anger and anxiety are common emotions in such situations, Poe said. And while these responses can't be eliminated, they can be allayed by moving carefully--and preferably, slowly.

"If you push," wrenching Sydney and Justin too quickly from Juditha and Louis Brown, their grandparents, "you're going to run up against more issues of abandonment," Poe cautioned.

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