Crowding out a right to choose

These picketers make my blood boil, but I get just as angry when I see parents and would-be parents talking about childrearing (and often child conceiving) as though it were a series of consumer decisions. For too many parents and wannabes, raising a child seems to be as much about acquiring the accessories of family life as it is about committing to the fundamental work of raising another human. Whether it's a teenage mom anticipating her baby shower as though it were the prom or an affluent couple spending nearly $1,000 on a Bugaboo Cameleon stroller, baby love isn't just the stuff of dreams, it's the stuff of stuff.

And it is here, at the crossroads of child worship and superstore worship, that we form many of our ideas about who should be reproducing. Although no one says it out loud, surely the reason most middle-class people in this country don't feel accountable for our ballooning population is that we believe we're duty bound to replace our elite, red-blooded, all-American selves. In this mind-set, overpopulation is perpetuated not by hard-working parents who send their daughters to ballet class but chiefly by immigrants, the poor and people in developing nations. This is also the mind-set to which pro-lifers pay (silent) lip service as they physically and legislatively try to block the reproductive freedoms of women who are often immigrants, poor or living in developing nations.

Obviously abortion is not a solution to the domestic or global population crisis, and obviously plenty of parents view family life as something more than an accessory for their McMansions. But the materialism and status anxiety that the mainstream culture increasingly associates with parenting -- the cable channels devoted to birthing plans and their myriad accompanying products, the tank-like SUVs that are must-haves for anyone with more than 1.7 children, the perpetual orange alert around the issue of college admission and tuition -- suggests that life might be easier all around if there weren't quite so many of us.

I'm not advocating a one- (or even two-) child policy, nor am I unaware of the fact that two-thirds of the world's growth comes not from birthrates (which are actually down worldwide) but from people living longer. However, despite those reduced birthrates, roughly 10 billion people around the world die of hunger every year, and millions of Americans lack affordable healthcare. Maybe these are issues we'd hear more about if not for the competing noise from the abortion war.

By the way, since last Saturday we've added another 5 million people to the planet. But don't worry. Apparently there's plenty of room in South Dakota.