Mix-up at Riverside National Cemetery hampers where man will spend eternity
First, some history. In the late summer of 1951, 22-year-old Paul Siemasko was working the bar at the NCO club at Marine Corps headquarters outside Washington, D.C., when a young woman walked in. Her name was Charlotte Rose, from South Bend, Ind.
Things clicked. Paul, the New England Catholic, and Charlotte, the Midwestern Protestant, began dating. Six weeks later, when Charlotte was scheduled to return to her Marine base assignment in North Carolina, she promised to write. Nah, Paul said, that's not the way things happen. People drift apart.
So he proposed.
Fifty-four years of married life later, in January 2006, Charlotte Siemasko died of lung cancer. It came upon her quickly, but in the years before, she and Paul, by then longtime Orange Countians, had decided to be buried in Riverside National Cemetery.
In February 2006, Charlotte's cremated remains were buried in Plot 361. No. 362 would be Paul's.
Or so he thought.
We're on the phone, and Siemasko isn't angry as he tells his story. People make mistakes, he says. He thinks he's been wronged but isn't banging the table over it. He just wants to know what to do about the fact that the small plot of ground next to Charlotte's remains is now occupied by those of an Air Force senior airman.
Which creates a conundrum. If Siemasko, 79, wants to spend eternity next to his wife, the government must either disinter her remains and relocate them or do the same to the airman.
The cemetery is perfectly willing to do the former but not the latter.
Although sympathetic to Siemasko, cemetery officials say he's at fault for not giving them proof of his military service when his wife's ashes were buried. So, they say, the space he thought was his remained available. There's no way, they say, they're digging up the remains of the blameless airman whose family claimed the spot.
Siemasko gets it -- sort of. But two months after one of his daughters first discovered the mix-up during a visit to the cemetery, he's still tied up in knots.
"I think I'm a compassionate and non-vindictive person," he says. "I'm not trying to cause a lot of waves. I was pretty upset when they said it's not the other family's fault. Of course, I know that, but it's not our family's fault either."
Cemetery officials have offered to move Charlotte's remains and set aside an adjoining space for Paul. They also offered companion above-ground niches.
