Aunts feud over teen's pregnancy
Dear Amy: My older sister and I are at odds about our 15-year-old niece's pregnancy (she is our younger sister's daughter).
When I found out about this pregnancy, I reached out to support her, while my older sister feels the need to punish her.
My niece is having a baby shower soon and invited both of us. Although I will be attending, my older sister will not. While my heart is broken that my niece is pregnant at such a young age, I believe that we need to support her emotionally.
I have pretty much cut ties with my older sister. Have I done the wrong thing?
Sad Aunt
Dear Aunt: You and your sisters have an opportunity to mentor your niece by demonstrating the steadfastness of a strong family.
Your older sister can assume that this expectant teen mother has been punished -- and perhaps punished herself -- enough. Now she's going to have a baby, and you'll have a new family member.
I agree with you that your sister's choice is a poor one, but it's one she alone is responsible for. If you don't believe in shunning, then don't shun her.
You have already expressed your disappointment, but your sister seems intractable.
Let her wallow in her own anger, but don't share it with her.
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