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Out of tragedy, Neuheisel and former quarterback form a forever bond

John Hessler, who played for the UCLA coach at Colorado, was badly hurt in a 2003 car crash. The coach has been unfailingly supportive, and they will reunite again for a game Saturday as they do each fall.

November 01, 2010|By Chris Foster

"Life is not fair."

Former quarterback John Hessler, in a slow, monotone voice honed in years of speech therapy, says that is the most important lesson he learned from Rick Neuheisel, who was his position coach at the University of Colorado.

The last seven years have reinforced the philosophy, from the moment in 2003 when Hessler's car was forced into the median on a Colorado highway during a hit-and-run accident that left him in a coma for 33 days.

Family, former teammates and coaches hovered at the hospital hoping for the best. Neuheisel, now UCLA's head coach, was among them, and he was typically relentless in his optimism.

"Just being in the room with him and holding his hand," Neuheisel recalled, "you could feel he was inside ready to come out."

The men will reunite this week in what has become an annual fall visit. Neuheisel has flown Hessler in for a football game every year since 2006.

This year, that game is Saturday, when UCLA plays Oregon State at the Rose Bowl. Hessler is coming out from his Northglenn, Colo., home and will be in Ontario in time for his son's birthday Thursday.

Life may not be fair, as Neuheisel told Hessler when he lost a quarterback competition to Koy Detmer in 1996, but it doesn't mean it's not worth living.

"He always told me that when things don't go your way, it's how you handle the adversity that shows what kind of player you are," Hessler said. "I have thought about that a lot over the years.

"What I'm dealing with is hard. How can I tell you in two words when it would take a million to explain?

"… I'm here."

The reunion

Neuheisel was a Baltimore Ravens assistant when he first brought Hessler out for a game. The Ravens played the Philadelphia Eagles, Detmer's team, and the former Colorado quarterbacks renewed acquaintances before the game.

The night before, Hessler and Neuheisel were roommates at the Ravens' hotel.

"We talked about our times at Colorado that night," Neuheisel said. "I wanted to talk about family and the future.… Everything I was about was all he had to look forward to."

The yearly weekend visits now fall into the "look forward to" category.

"The past month, all John can talk about is going out to L.A. to see Rick Neuheisel," said Sarah Bindel, who has been in a relationship with Hessler since 2007.

His son's birthday is an added perk. Devin Hessler lives with his mother and stepfather in Ontario.

When Hessler, his son and Bindel went to UCLA's game against Oregon last season, "Devin's face lit up when we got to the Rose Bowl floor, like, 'Are you kidding me?' " Bindel recalled. "John felt great that he could do something for Devin."

Neuheisel helps as well, providing Devin with a scholarship to UCLA's youth camp.

"John was always involved with Devin," Bindel said. "He'd take him fishing and Devin would go watch John play softball. Then Devin moved to California, and then came the horrible accident."

The accident

Hessler's football player career was over, but his life was on track in 2003. He taught seventh grade social studies and was an assistant coach at Aurora (Colo.) Regis High.

Then, on Oct. 19 that year, the driver of a Chevrolet Blazer ran Hessler's car into the median. The driver never stopped and Hessler was left slumped over, not breathing.

A passerby got into the mangled car and lifted Hessler's head to open an airway, but Hessler had sustained severe head trauma and other injuries.

The driver of the Blazer was never found.

Hessler's injuries were so serious that it was just last year, after years of rehabilitation, that he passed a competency hearing so that he could resume responsibility for his personal affairs.

Though he can walk — slowly and methodically — Hessler plays wheelchair basketball, and he is a volunteer football coach at Thornton High in the Denver area.

"John has done a good job at making peace," said Bindel, who met Hessler while working as a physical therapist. Still, she said, "It's less and less, but the anger will still come out, that [the driver of the Blazer] left him for dead."

Along the way, Neuheisel has been a constant source of encouragement.

"Rick calls to check on him and keeps encouraging," Bindel said. "He really tries to make sure things in John's world are all good."

The coach

Anyone who watched Colorado's game against Michigan in 1997 would have a hard time believing that years later Neuheisel and Hessler would be close.

There was Hessler, coming off the field after a mistake. And there was Neuheisel, screaming at him for all a national television audience to see.

"I was absolutely publicly ripped for that by [ ABC announcer] Keith Jackson, and that's OK," Neuheisel said, chuckling. "Keith Jackson wasn't at practice all week."

Hessler understood. "Rick could get under my skin," he said. "Most of the time, I deserved it. It was love."

He recalled that when Neuheisel was a Colorado assistant, "he covered for me when I was late for a Friday walk-through before an Oklahoma game."

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