March 1, 2010 |
Iused to think it was odd that anger was the operating principle of politics in America, a country that elevates the "pursuit of happiness" to a self-evident right. But then I realized it's happiness itself -- the ill-defined, carrot-on-a-stick nature of it -- that makes us so mad. If our collective goal weren't so lofty (and vague), and if we didn't believe we were entitled to our heart's desire, maybe we could calm down, leave well enough alone and count our blessings. But that's not how we roll.
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February 8, 1994
The Bobbitt and Menendez brothers cases have a common denominator, anger. None of them knew how to properly deal with their anger. Anger is a reaction to feelings of helplessness, hopelessness, not being heard, being discounted, used, abused, etc. If one is verbally attacked, it is better to say, "I feel that I am being attacked by you," rather than "you dumb S.O.B., you can't talk to me that way." The latter cuts off communication in a hostile fashion, the former opens the door for discussion.
December 10, 1987
According to "Learning Anger at Mother's Knee" (UPI, Dec. 2), men and women respond to anger in different ways. Specifically: "Men tend to blame others when they get angry, while women blame themselves and feel guilty about their anger." And why the difference? According to the story's headline and lead paragraphs, mothers cause the difference by encouraging little boys to take action when angry while advising little girls to ignore and forget their feelings. Now, I recall being told by my mother and my father to ignore irritating behavior rather than encourage it with an angry reply; they told the same thing to my brother.
December 16, 2012 |
NEWTOWN, Conn. - It was meant to be a day of mourning, but parishioners inside a Catholic Church here had their fears renewed Sunday when a bomb threat forced a mid-morning evacuation and a SWAT team converged and surrounded a rectory. The threat, which came during morning services, was “a menacing call that threatened to disrupt the Mass in a violent way,” said Brian Wallace, a spokesman for the local diocese. As parishioners filed out of St. Rose of Lima Church, there was a swell of raw emotion -- disappointment, distress, anger and sadness, Wallace said.
November 29, 2012 |
CAIRO -- Egypt's Islamist-dominated constitutional assembly passed a rushed draft of a constitution early Friday to ease public anger against President Mohamed Morsi's expanded powers and preempt an expected court decision to disband it this weekend. The proposed constitution states that the nation will be governed by the “principles” of Islamic law, the same wording that was in the constitution under deposed leader Hosni Mubarak. But critics argue that certain language was open to interpretation and could allow conservative Islamists to impose a more rigid version of sharia law. The draft was sent to the presidential palace.
October 11, 2010 |
There's nothing like a children's sporting event to rile people up. Confined to the sidelines, parents and coaches routinely scream at one another, at the referees and sometimes even at the kids. This last spring, I experienced firsthand just how bad behavior on the field could get. My 9-year-old son's flag football team advanced to the quarterfinals of the park league he was playing in, and it quickly became apparent that the opposing team's coach was set on winning at all costs.