May 15, 2003
I guess Mark Miller could think of dating as job training, as he said -- if he wants to be an actor! ("Dating? Think of It as Job Training," May 8.) If he spends all of his time and money running around trying to be what "Sarah" wants and needs and he is really not "it," no wonder he finds women so high maintenance. Why doesn't he just find someone he has something in common with? Oh yeah, I forgot, that is the difference between women and men: Women look for someone we find interesting, and the chemistry comes second; men take one look at us and go with Miller's "one of three things you ponder" when they meet us. If it isn't No. 2 -- "I wonder what she looks like naked?"
May 3, 1987
The article "AIDS Launches Sexual Counterrevolution" (by Jeannine Stein, April 3) seems to confirm something that I've long thought: that promiscuous people are too shallow to understand that a human being is more than an object. Not one of the people quoted had anything to say about love, affection, family, etc. Their only motivation was the fear of death, their only regret was that the orgy was over. They've established a new double standard by screening prospective bedmates in order to rule out people like themselves.
January 2, 2002 |
In her upcoming autobiography, Bo Derek writes that Jane Fonda begged Derek to date Ted Turner in spring 2000, shortly after Fonda and Turner had split. "She told me she loved Ted and just wanted him to be happy ... and that ... he was a great lover," Derek writes in "Riding Lessons," which is due out in February. Fonda, Derek writes, said her former husband feared rejection from Derek and asked Fonda to broach the subject of dating on his behalf. "Jane sounded very happy," Derek writes.
CALIFORNIA | LOCAL
October 11, 2011 |
On the heels of a fatal stabbing last month in which a high school girl was allegedly attacked by her ex-boyfriend, the Los Angeles Board of Education is expected to consider a proposal Tuesday that will take on teen dating violence by teaching students to recognize when a relationship is becoming abusive. Board member Steve Zimmer, who called for the board action, said the Sept. 30 incident at South East High School "punctuates the urgency" for expanding anti-dating violence programs districtwide.
November 27, 2003
You really got my motor running with the article on speed-dating ("You Can Learn a Lot in Just Three Minutes," Nov. 13). Michelle Maltais' touched a chord with me, as I too have sampled the Match.com experience. It's fast-food love. Internet dating forces us to pass judgment on others through a photograph and a small essay. But the truth is that chemistry between a man and a woman can never be written down as a scientific formula. Yes, you can learn a lot in three minutes, but think of all that you miss.
September 4, 2003
Re the ongoing discussion of Internet dating ("Lost on the Bad-Date Superhighway," by Samantha Bonar, Aug. 21): Of course caution is advisable, but much can be learned from a brief encounter at a coffeehouse. Single again in '97, I tried several net dating sites, resulting in quite a few dates, some more fun than others, but after a couple of years a message: "My mom is here with me watching as I browse the dating Web sites, and I suggested that we see if anyone in her age range interested her, and your listing and photo was shown.
February 14, 2010 |
What would you pay to meet the love of your life? Twenty dollars a month for an Internet dating site that lets you wade knee-deep into the dating pool and swim with millions of other singles? Or $1,000-plus for a personalized matchmaker who will do the wading, and weeding, for you? Over the last few years, a surprising number of singles have been choosing the latter, despite the declining economy. Turned off by Internet dating sites that offer a vast selection but take a lot of time, they're spending bigger bucks for more service that leaves the date-picking to someone else.
March 17, 2005
Wonderful story by Alison Manheim ["Her Ex Has Moved On, So She's Moved Online," March 10]. I feel bad for you if your boyfriend did dump you, but the only people who have to resort to online dating services are losers, pure and simple. All the men lie about everything to get dates, and the women really have no clue. They are just looking for the "fantasy," but they are not going to find it online. So don't feel bad about your ex; don't even think about it. Don't give that person the power to make you miserable.
August 21, 2003
Re: "Web Dating Only Netted Bad News," by Samantha Bonar, Aug. 14: After finding myself single last November, around February I decided to try Match.com due to relentless cajoling from friends. After four months of blind "coffee or tea" meetings, replete with anticipation and excitement and subsequently a lot of disappointment, I then realized what was happening: E-dating is dating backwards. Let's get to know each other, learn all about what we have in common, become good friends and then meet to see if we have any "chemistry" -- the buzz word of e-dating.
May 17, 2007
Oh, my God! I thought it was just me, it's good to know there are others out there like me ["Dazed by the Dating Game," May 10]. It is extremely hard to get a guy to even commit to a date these days, they either want you to come over to their house for a drink (wink, wink) or come over to your house for a drink and a massage (wink, wink). Like Teresa Strasser, I might be able to handle life in the '50s, ugh, with a few Valiums. But, isn't it sad there are no more real men around?