March 21, 2010
Dear Amy: I've had a friend from work for 25 years. We solved problems together, griped about conditions, lunched and played tennis. We retired and have remained friends, albeit with less get-together time. Well, suddenly my friend says he has to meet with a "group" every morning, including weekends. He is mysterious about the "group," saying that he is not permitted to talk about what they do. Though I know his wife, I feel I can't ask her about this because I'm embarrassed.
December 21, 2009
Dear Amy: Like many people these days, my husband and I have struggled financially. We both work on commission, and there have been months when we've had no income at all. My husband is taking his Social Security benefits earlier than we had planned, which have been helpful. We have a problem that most people would love to have, but we're not sure how to handle it. We have a friend. He is divorced and quite well off. He has two children in their 20s. Every year around the Christmas season, he takes his family on wonderful vacation trips.
February 9, 2010
Dear Amy: I have been married for 30 years. I endured put-downs, slurs and nastiness from my husband's parents for the entirety of our marriage -- with no help from my husband. A year ago, my mother-in-law passed away and my father-in-law was placed in the dementia unit of a nursing home. My problem is that I am still furious at how they treated me -- and terribly disappointed that the close relationship I always wanted with them never happened. I tried and tried, but everything about me was dead wrong: my ethnicity, my weight, my education (I have a doctorate, and my husband has a high school diploma, so they called me "Miss Know-It-All")
March 23, 2010
Dear Amy: I work in a cubicle across a narrow hall from the water cooler, restrooms and kitchen. Co-workers tend to congregate in this area. As you can imagine, the noise level is high. I'd like to post a sign reminding people to kindly keep it down. Humor seems to work with this crowd. Do you have any suggestions? Reluctant Eavesdropper Dear Eavesdropper: "We all know we don't really work around here, but let's keep this secret from our clients and customers.
March 30, 2010
Dear Readers: A few weeks back, "Concerned Wife" wrote a very thoughtful letter to me about her husband's impending job loss. In addition to professional challenges he would be facing, he also felt that he was letting his family down. Concerned asked how she could best help her husband through this rough time. A flood of mail came in. I found them inspirational as well as helpful, and am sampling them below. :: Dear Amy: Even though I am over 60 and am lucky to have just found a job, I have gone through four job changes in the past six years.
December 27, 2009
Dear Amy: My daughter has a boyfriend of 17 who still sleeps in the same bed with his 19-year-old sister, on occasion. He also sits in the bathroom and talks with her while she is in the shower. Is it just me, or is this a tad strange? The sister is also very controlling and possessive. Wondering Mom Dear Mom: It isn't just you. This is a tad strange. I'd start by asking how she knows about these habits. Is this hearsay, or does she have personal knowledge of it?