December 18, 2009
Dear Amy: Almost a year ago, my boyfriend and I broke up. We adored each other, but we also had trust and boundary issues and a broken, unhappy relationship. After the breakup, I kept contacting him. Eventually I stopped. In September I wrote him a letter explaining my feelings. I tried to use non-accusatory, constructive language. His response was a text message telling me that my opinion means nothing, and to never contact him again. The last time I contacted him was in a text telling him that he was an emotionally abusive partner.
February 9, 2010
Dear Amy: I have been married for 30 years. I endured put-downs, slurs and nastiness from my husband's parents for the entirety of our marriage -- with no help from my husband. A year ago, my mother-in-law passed away and my father-in-law was placed in the dementia unit of a nursing home. My problem is that I am still furious at how they treated me -- and terribly disappointed that the close relationship I always wanted with them never happened. I tried and tried, but everything about me was dead wrong: my ethnicity, my weight, my education (I have a doctorate, and my husband has a high school diploma, so they called me "Miss Know-It-All")
March 11, 2010
Dear Amy: I euthanized my beloved cat. Aside from the grief of losing my pet of 15 years, I feel tremendous guilt. She was 17 or 18 years old and was recently diagnosed with an illness affecting her ability to breathe. Ever since she died, I have been reliving that conversation and wishing I had not made the call. The vet said the illness would cause a horrible natural death, but I feel like I ended her life prematurely, whether by a few weeks or a month.
January 22, 2010
Dear Amy: My mom died about a year ago. I'm in 10th grade and recently my dad decided to let his girlfriend, "Jenni," move in. When I see them together I just want to cry. I want to talk to my dad about this, but I don't know what to say. Am I overreacting? Upset and Grieving Dear Upset: Your loss is monumental -- and your life is changing too fast. You and your dad should see a counselor together. Your community should also have a family grieving support group.
March 30, 2010
Dear Readers: A few weeks back, "Concerned Wife" wrote a very thoughtful letter to me about her husband's impending job loss. In addition to professional challenges he would be facing, he also felt that he was letting his family down. Concerned asked how she could best help her husband through this rough time. A flood of mail came in. I found them inspirational as well as helpful, and am sampling them below. :: Dear Amy: Even though I am over 60 and am lucky to have just found a job, I have gone through four job changes in the past six years.
December 27, 2009
Dear Amy: My daughter has a boyfriend of 17 who still sleeps in the same bed with his 19-year-old sister, on occasion. He also sits in the bathroom and talks with her while she is in the shower. Is it just me, or is this a tad strange? The sister is also very controlling and possessive. Wondering Mom Dear Mom: It isn't just you. This is a tad strange. I'd start by asking how she knows about these habits. Is this hearsay, or does she have personal knowledge of it?