February 2, 2010
Dear Amy: I am a married mother of two young boys. I grew up in a volatile home, because my mother was verbally (and sometimes physically) abusive toward us, especially my father. We were all constantly under her watchful eye, and had to live according to her obsessive cleaning schedule. We never knew when her next blowup would occur. She is now married to her third husband. He is a nice man and doesn't seem to know about her past. Because of the way she has mistreated her immediate and extended family, I am the only one left who will see her voluntarily and/or talk to her. And I do it for my sons, not myself.
January 12, 2010
Dear Amy: I'm a 19-year-old college student. My parents still try to control me. When I'm home, they tell me when to go to bed and when to get up. They will tell me to delete something on my Facebook page if they find it offensive. They say if I don't delete it, I won't get into grad school or get a job. I'm aware of the consequences of Facebook postings. I know that when I apply for anything, my Facebook profile will be reviewed. If I refuse to comply with my parents' demand, they threaten to take away my car, computer and other items.
December 27, 2009
Dear Amy: My daughter has a boyfriend of 17 who still sleeps in the same bed with his 19-year-old sister, on occasion. He also sits in the bathroom and talks with her while she is in the shower. Is it just me, or is this a tad strange? The sister is also very controlling and possessive. Wondering Mom Dear Mom: It isn't just you. This is a tad strange. I'd start by asking how she knows about these habits. Is this hearsay, or does she have personal knowledge of it?
December 25, 2009
Dear Readers: Scores of you have responded to my request for "worst gift" stories. I have enjoyed these tales of duct-taped gifts, re-gifted gifts and gifts that are just plain horrible. So here, back by popular demand, are more tales of "gifts gone bad." For more, check out my Twitter site dedicated to the awfulness: Twitter.com/santahatesme. :: Dear Amy: My brother has always been frugal -- "downright cheap" would probably be a better term. One year for Christmas, I received from him six half-used containers of dental floss, all individually wrapped.
March 23, 2010
Dear Amy: I work in a cubicle across a narrow hall from the water cooler, restrooms and kitchen. Co-workers tend to congregate in this area. As you can imagine, the noise level is high. I'd like to post a sign reminding people to kindly keep it down. Humor seems to work with this crowd. Do you have any suggestions? Reluctant Eavesdropper Dear Eavesdropper: "We all know we don't really work around here, but let's keep this secret from our clients and customers.
March 30, 2010
Dear Readers: A few weeks back, "Concerned Wife" wrote a very thoughtful letter to me about her husband's impending job loss. In addition to professional challenges he would be facing, he also felt that he was letting his family down. Concerned asked how she could best help her husband through this rough time. A flood of mail came in. I found them inspirational as well as helpful, and am sampling them below. :: Dear Amy: Even though I am over 60 and am lucky to have just found a job, I have gone through four job changes in the past six years.