January 12, 2010
Dear Amy: I'm a 19-year-old college student. My parents still try to control me. When I'm home, they tell me when to go to bed and when to get up. They will tell me to delete something on my Facebook page if they find it offensive. They say if I don't delete it, I won't get into grad school or get a job. I'm aware of the consequences of Facebook postings. I know that when I apply for anything, my Facebook profile will be reviewed. If I refuse to comply with my parents' demand, they threaten to take away my car, computer and other items.
March 21, 2010
Dear Amy: I've had a friend from work for 25 years. We solved problems together, griped about conditions, lunched and played tennis. We retired and have remained friends, albeit with less get-together time. Well, suddenly my friend says he has to meet with a "group" every morning, including weekends. He is mysterious about the "group," saying that he is not permitted to talk about what they do. Though I know his wife, I feel I can't ask her about this because I'm embarrassed.
December 27, 2009
Dear Amy: My daughter has a boyfriend of 17 who still sleeps in the same bed with his 19-year-old sister, on occasion. He also sits in the bathroom and talks with her while she is in the shower. Is it just me, or is this a tad strange? The sister is also very controlling and possessive. Wondering Mom Dear Mom: It isn't just you. This is a tad strange. I'd start by asking how she knows about these habits. Is this hearsay, or does she have personal knowledge of it?
December 25, 2009
Dear Readers: Scores of you have responded to my request for "worst gift" stories. I have enjoyed these tales of duct-taped gifts, re-gifted gifts and gifts that are just plain horrible. So here, back by popular demand, are more tales of "gifts gone bad." For more, check out my Twitter site dedicated to the awfulness: Twitter.com/santahatesme. :: Dear Amy: My brother has always been frugal -- "downright cheap" would probably be a better term. One year for Christmas, I received from him six half-used containers of dental floss, all individually wrapped.
February 9, 2010
Dear Amy: I have been married for 30 years. I endured put-downs, slurs and nastiness from my husband's parents for the entirety of our marriage -- with no help from my husband. A year ago, my mother-in-law passed away and my father-in-law was placed in the dementia unit of a nursing home. My problem is that I am still furious at how they treated me -- and terribly disappointed that the close relationship I always wanted with them never happened. I tried and tried, but everything about me was dead wrong: my ethnicity, my weight, my education (I have a doctorate, and my husband has a high school diploma, so they called me "Miss Know-It-All")
December 29, 2009
Dear Amy: I work for a lovely couple at a family-run educational nonprofit. They are in their mid- and late 70s, and very open-minded. However, every time the husband talks about me to clients or introduces me to them he refers to me as their secretary. I am a 37-year-old college-educated woman. Before this job I was a manager at a large, prestigious company. I was hired as the marketing department here but have ended up taking on work including bookkeeping and taxes -- duties far beyond my job description.