December 4, 2009
Dear Readers: Recently I called upon you to send in your "worst ever" gift stories in response to a letter about a Christmas gift gone wrong. I have been so inspired by these stories that I've set up a page on Twitter to share all of them. Check out twitter.com/santahatesme to see what not to do this holiday season or to contribute your own tale of good intentions gone awry. Dear Amy: My husband of 28 years gave me an expensive diamond heart necklace accompanied by a tearful admission of his years of affairs and intent to divorce.
December 21, 2009
Dear Amy: Like many people these days, my husband and I have struggled financially. We both work on commission, and there have been months when we've had no income at all. My husband is taking his Social Security benefits earlier than we had planned, which have been helpful. We have a problem that most people would love to have, but we're not sure how to handle it. We have a friend. He is divorced and quite well off. He has two children in their 20s. Every year around the Christmas season, he takes his family on wonderful vacation trips.
January 12, 2010
Dear Amy: I'm a 19-year-old college student. My parents still try to control me. When I'm home, they tell me when to go to bed and when to get up. They will tell me to delete something on my Facebook page if they find it offensive. They say if I don't delete it, I won't get into grad school or get a job. I'm aware of the consequences of Facebook postings. I know that when I apply for anything, my Facebook profile will be reviewed. If I refuse to comply with my parents' demand, they threaten to take away my car, computer and other items.
February 9, 2010
Dear Amy: I have been married for 30 years. I endured put-downs, slurs and nastiness from my husband's parents for the entirety of our marriage -- with no help from my husband. A year ago, my mother-in-law passed away and my father-in-law was placed in the dementia unit of a nursing home. My problem is that I am still furious at how they treated me -- and terribly disappointed that the close relationship I always wanted with them never happened. I tried and tried, but everything about me was dead wrong: my ethnicity, my weight, my education (I have a doctorate, and my husband has a high school diploma, so they called me "Miss Know-It-All")
December 27, 2009
Dear Amy: My daughter has a boyfriend of 17 who still sleeps in the same bed with his 19-year-old sister, on occasion. He also sits in the bathroom and talks with her while she is in the shower. Is it just me, or is this a tad strange? The sister is also very controlling and possessive. Wondering Mom Dear Mom: It isn't just you. This is a tad strange. I'd start by asking how she knows about these habits. Is this hearsay, or does she have personal knowledge of it?
April 2, 2010
Dear Amy: My husband and I celebrated our 50th wedding anniversary this past summer. Our four children came with their families, and everyone seemed to have a great time. Shortly after the party, our daughter e-mailed us to say that she thought she had forgiven me for something I did when she was in high school, but apparently she hasn't and she does not want any more contact with me. She does not answer the phone when we call or respond to e-mails. I was the best mother that I knew how to be when she was growing up. The three other children say, "She's being ridiculous -- forget about it," but I would like to have some contact with my only daughter.