March 7, 2010
Dear Amy: My sister "Carol" was married for about 10 years to "Steve." About three years ago, he started cheating on Carol and eventually left her. She was devastated. He recently married the woman and they have a baby. My sister "Sarah" and her husband have maintained a close relationship with Steve and his new family. Do you feel this relationship they maintain with Steve is appropriate? Christine Dear Christine: A sensitive family member will realize that during a difficult divorce, attention and concern should be lavished onto the aggrieved family member.
March 4, 2010
Dear Amy: My husband and I have been married for 24 years. He does business development for a large firm. He is involved in numerous community groups, explaining that this is how he builds relationships and clients. He is home Sundays and two or three evenings each week. When home, he spends hours responding to e-mails and reading Facebook sites. I feel lonely when I see the great relationships he maintains with others, whereas all I get is a tired, stressed and distant husband.
January 20, 2010
Dear Amy: My daughter-in-law is constantly telling me that I raised my son wrong. They have been together for 20 years and have two teenage children. My son has been the sole provider during this time. She believes that it is her place to stay home with the children. I get to hear how my son does not do enough for her. She says I raised a thoughtless brat. There are variations on this theme, but it is something I hear over and over. I smile and tell her I did the best I could.
January 27, 2010
Dear Amy: I have been involved with a man for more than four years. We are both in our late 50s. At the beginning of the relationship, I lived with him, but I had to move out because of his spoiled adult kids. They didn't like the fact that I was around and "monopolized all his free time." They made it very difficult for both of us. I have been in my own apartment for the past year. He and I had talked about me moving back in with him. My lease is up in February.
February 2, 2010
Dear Amy: I am a married mother of two young boys. I grew up in a volatile home, because my mother was verbally (and sometimes physically) abusive toward us, especially my father. We were all constantly under her watchful eye, and had to live according to her obsessive cleaning schedule. We never knew when her next blowup would occur. She is now married to her third husband. He is a nice man and doesn't seem to know about her past. Because of the way she has mistreated her immediate and extended family, I am the only one left who will see her voluntarily and/or talk to her. And I do it for my sons, not myself.
February 5, 2010
Dear Amy: Am I the only one disturbed by the trend of "cougars"? I am a 40-year-old male, and was taught (mostly by women) that men who chased women 20 years younger were "dirty old men" with "arrested development" who looked ridiculous and childish. But now it seems that when women do it, it's "empowering." The first time I heard this term was on the "Today" show. The host was talking to some self-confessed cougars who were saying how great it was that they had found this new and incredibly liberating lifestyle.
March 8, 2010
Dear Amy: I'm at an age when I'm eligible for Social Security and draw a pension. I enjoy good health and still have an energy level of men much younger than me. I'm scared of going into my twilight years with nothing to look forward to other than carrying my wife's purse around cute little boutiques, playing cards and dealing with boring people. I know this sounds selfish and I have a little guilt about it, but if I don't follow this dream, I'll never know what adventures might await me. I intend to explore the possibilities of living on my own in South America, where my dollar will afford me a certain amount of freedom and luxury.
March 16, 2010
Dear Amy: With the wedding season fast approaching, I wanted to drop a little advice to brides-to-be when choosing their wedding parties. I was married a few years ago and chose my best friend to be my matron of honor. I was totally deflated when she informed me that she didn't want to participate but only be a guest. Our friendship spanned 20 years. It would have been more acceptable had she been sick, had money or family issues, etc. Unfortunately, being in my wedding simply wasn't a priority in her busy life.
March 17, 2010
Dear Amy: When we sat down to dinner with my kids and some of their friends -- all 9- and 10-year-olds -- one of the boys mentioned that he had seen "The Hangover" multiple times at home. What do you think of parents who allow their kids to watch very inappropriate movies? My only thought is that they are actually tired of parenting and just don't bother to try. Toni Dear Toni: This presents a "teachable moment" for your kids and their friends. When other kids mention that they've been allowed to see or do something you don't allow in your family, you can say, "Well, that's an R-rated movie.
March 19, 2010
Dear Amy: I am 18. Sometimes I drive family members and their friends to and from the clubs and other places to keep drunken drivers off the road -- and also to make extra cash. My aunt and uncle have been good about paying me when I drop them off. Sometimes I'll also drive them when they have friends with them. If the friends don't pay me, I'm fine as long as someone pays. Recently I drove my aunt and uncle. They had brought another couple. The second couple paid me as they were getting out of the car. I declined, but they insisted.