December 21, 2009
Dear Amy: Like many people these days, my husband and I have struggled financially. We both work on commission, and there have been months when we've had no income at all. My husband is taking his Social Security benefits earlier than we had planned, which have been helpful. We have a problem that most people would love to have, but we're not sure how to handle it. We have a friend. He is divorced and quite well off. He has two children in their 20s. Every year around the Christmas season, he takes his family on wonderful vacation trips.
December 11, 2009
Dear Amy: My ex-husband and I divorced more than a year ago. We had a pretty clean break because we both felt the need to move on. I asked if I could have my Christmas ornaments back. He said yes but asked if we could do it the next year, when he would be back in the attic. The only reason I want these ornaments is that they are personalized and from my grandmother, who died shortly before the divorce proceedings. None of this is included in our divorce decree. I've contacted him three times -- twice via text and once via e-mail -- but he hasn't replied.
March 11, 2010
Dear Amy: I euthanized my beloved cat. Aside from the grief of losing my pet of 15 years, I feel tremendous guilt. She was 17 or 18 years old and was recently diagnosed with an illness affecting her ability to breathe. Ever since she died, I have been reliving that conversation and wishing I had not made the call. The vet said the illness would cause a horrible natural death, but I feel like I ended her life prematurely, whether by a few weeks or a month.
January 20, 2010
Dear Amy: My daughter-in-law is constantly telling me that I raised my son wrong. They have been together for 20 years and have two teenage children. My son has been the sole provider during this time. She believes that it is her place to stay home with the children. I get to hear how my son does not do enough for her. She says I raised a thoughtless brat. There are variations on this theme, but it is something I hear over and over. I smile and tell her I did the best I could.
January 25, 2010
Dear Amy: I recently discovered that my boyfriend is taking an antidepressant. I know this because I work in pharmaceuticals. While I wasn't snooping (the prescription bottle was on his dresser in plain view), he might think I was snooping. In the time we've been together, I've disclosed personal information to him. We've talked marriage and kids. Isn't this information he should share with someone he considers to be a future wife? Do I have a right to confront him, and if so, how do I handle this?
February 5, 2010
Dear Amy: Am I the only one disturbed by the trend of "cougars"? I am a 40-year-old male, and was taught (mostly by women) that men who chased women 20 years younger were "dirty old men" with "arrested development" who looked ridiculous and childish. But now it seems that when women do it, it's "empowering." The first time I heard this term was on the "Today" show. The host was talking to some self-confessed cougars who were saying how great it was that they had found this new and incredibly liberating lifestyle.
April 6, 2010
Dear Amy: "Steve" and I dated for a year when we were in high school -- 33 years ago. It was an intense romantic relationship, but I eventually ended it because Steve's reckless and impulsive behavior scared me. I moved away after high school and have not been back. Recently, Steve and other high school friends contacted me on Facebook. They hang out together frequently in my hometown, and it has been nice catching up with them. I'd like to go back for a visit, but I have a dilemma: I'm happily married, and Steve is married too, apparently not so happily.
April 9, 2010
Dear Amy: I am 34 and in a relationship. We've been together for about a year. He has two children from a previous relationship. The other day I brought up the subject of having a child with him, because I would love to be a mother soon. He flat-out told me he did not want to have any more children. I'm not sure what to do. I am in love with him and he says he loves me. What should I do? Worried Woman Dear Worried: This may be the single most challenging issue that couples face as they contemplate their future.
January 12, 2010
Dear Amy: I'm a 19-year-old college student. My parents still try to control me. When I'm home, they tell me when to go to bed and when to get up. They will tell me to delete something on my Facebook page if they find it offensive. They say if I don't delete it, I won't get into grad school or get a job. I'm aware of the consequences of Facebook postings. I know that when I apply for anything, my Facebook profile will be reviewed. If I refuse to comply with my parents' demand, they threaten to take away my car, computer and other items.
November 30, 2009
Dear Amy: I am a 53-year-old physician, and my weight bounces up and down about 15 pounds. I am not happy about it, but I also do not want to hear about it from anyone. I see many people during my day who are, for the most part, strangers to me. I think it is extremely rude to comment on anyone's weight, whether there is a weight gain or loss. I usually laugh it off, but it really upsets me. Ironically, these comments usually come from people who are grossly overweight. Am I being too sensitive?