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February 7, 2010
Dear Amy: How do I convey a simple lesson about manners to "Jim," my son? He lives far away. His sisters live close and are considerate and kind. When I recently had surgery, I did not tell Jim until after the fact, because I realized there was nothing he could do and I didn't want to worry him. I sent an e-mail afterward, saying I'd had an operation and was doing well. I expected a return e-mail, saying something like, "Wow, surprising news; hope you continue your recovery."
April 24, 2014 | Mary McNamara
"House" meets "Homeland" and goes dancing with "Grey's Anatomy" on the new ABC "medical" drama, "Black Box," a show so deeply flawed and absurdly derivative you will wonder if you, like the main character, are experiencing a manic episode. Kelly Reilly stars as Dr. Catherine Black, a predictably brilliant and beautiful neurosurgeon who is also bipolar and prone to go off her meds. Like "Homeland's" Carrie Mathison and Dr. Gregory House, Black believes there is a direct relationship between her abilities and her disorder.
January 17, 1999
Re "Discovering That Manners Class Doesn't Measure Up," Jan. 2. What is he trying to say; that manners are obsolete? This exemplifies the downgrading of the civilities of our society. I thought newspapers were supposed to lead the way in proper behavior in all fields, not downgrade behavior. Good manners in all areas are a mark of education and self control--valuable assets. Terrible article, in my opinion. ALICE BESSMAN Los Angeles
March 24, 2014 | By Chris Foster
There was something to be learned about Jordan Adams from the five words he said during a news conference Sunday after helping UCLA advance to an NCAA South Regional semifinal with a win over Stephen F. Austin. Adams and Kyle Anderson, teammates and roommates, were asked about the Bruins' making the tournament's round of 16 for the first time since 2008. Anderson, speaking first, answered by talking about how much the accomplishment meant to UCLA's basketball program, and how there was still plenty of work to be done.
September 16, 1990
Margo Kaufman's article, "Brazen New World" (July 29) is a true description of today's world. Good manners and the Golden Rule have died. The two persistent themes operating in peoples' behavior these days seem to be "What's in it for me?" and "pursuit of the almighty dollar." This self-centered behavior is all around us. It is very discouraging for people of conscience and good will. Is this a reflection of poor parenting or a sign of our deteriorating mentality and civilization?
August 27, 1992 | AURORA MACKEY
So you think you're better mannered, better tempered, more cultured and more socially adept than 99% of the rude unsophisticates out there? Test your ability to deal with rudeness and find out. 1) You're in a department store line, waiting behind three people to pay for an item. Two salesgirls--the only ones in sight--stand behind the counter carrying on an animated discussion about how selfish their boyfriends are. Someone in line makes a comment about the long wait, but the girls ignore it.
December 6, 2009 | By BOOTH MOORE, Fashion Critic
You're hosting cocktails for 100 of your nearest and dearest in a week's time. What do you say to the 75 who still haven't bothered to open the Evite? You overhear a party guest announcing he's recovering from swine flu -- and he's standing under the mistletoe. Do you have to pucker up? You're newly unemployed and your best pal gives you a Goyard bag whose price tag approximates a car payment. How should you break it to her that you won't be reciprocating? Every holiday season brings its own set of etiquette challenges, and this year is no different.
November 21, 2010 | By Booth Moore, Los Angeles Times Fashion Critic
? The holidays bring out the best in people ? and the worst. Which means that it's the busy season for Anna Post, the 31-year-old great-great-granddaughter of Emily Post, who bears more than a passing resemblance to her famous forebear. As an etiquette expert for the Internet generation, she is using her legacy not so much to chastise us for using the wrong fork but to remind us to treat one another with respect ? both in the real and virtual worlds. Etiquette is the family business; seven Posts work full time at the Emily Post Institute in Burlington, Vt., including Anna's father Peter, mom Trisha and sister Lizzie.
November 17, 1985
Alyce Best seems to believe that the teaching of good manners to young girls involves reinforcing attitudes of servility ("Now They're Putting on Their White Gloves," by Heidi Yorkshire, Nov. 8). It is ludicrous and inappropriate for her to be instructing her young female students how to defer to men in restaurants, and then excusing herself by bowing to "tradition." "Traditional" treatment of women as second-class citizens has also included, at various times, preventing them from voting, holding political office, speaking in public and attending college.
Sick of body odor on subway trains and chain smokers in restaurants? Had your car boxed in by double parking or a good film ruined by the couple in front chatting? Fed up with litterbugs and road hogs? Take heart. In Portugal at least, slobs and other public nuisances are getting their wrists slapped by a government television campaign telling them to mind their manners.
March 20, 2014 | By Mark Olsen
Danish filmmaker Lars von Trier understands the art and craft of making movies, the power the form is capable of combined with the skill and means to achieve it, about as well as anyone working in the world today. He also seems to believe in cinema as an apparatus for the creation of bad feelings, a means for exploring the bleakest of human emotions and the darkest corners of our souls. Lucky us? Even the title of his latest film, "Nymphomaniac: Volume 1," seems some odd combo of put-on and provocation.
February 6, 2014 | By S. Irene Virbila
This is the season for wild birds and boar, for elk and all manner of game. Some is flown in from Scotland or Texas or New Zealand. And not every chef or restaurant indulges, so when they do, be ready to take advantage. It's easy to see chefs' fascination with exotic birds and animals. Game's flavor is deep and true. It also takes real skill to cook without drying it out and a keen sense of what flavors to pair with it. And since the supply is sporadic and as certain game comes in out of season, chefs have to be flexible.
December 7, 2013 | By David Zucchino and David S. Cloud
KABUL, Afghanistan - Defense Secretary Chuck Hagel, in Afghanistan on Saturday for a previously unannounced visit, said he had been assured by Afghanistan's defense minister that a post-2014 bilateral security agreement would be signed soon. Hagel, who landed in Afghanistan in secrecy while on a scheduled trip to the Middle East, said the defense minister, Bismullah Khan Mohammadi, told him earlier Saturday that the stalemated 10-year agreement would be signed "in a very timely manner.
December 6, 2013 | By Rober Abele
Early on in writer-director Jessie McCormack's "Expecting" - about female friendship, marriage and pregnancy - there's an unhurried, amiable but tension-filled vibe that suggests Nicole Holofcener's perceptive comedies. Lizzie (Radha Mitchell) wants a baby, her husband, Peter (John Dore), might not, but they accept an offer from Lizzie's caustic kook of a best friend, Andie (Michelle Monaghan) - pregnant after a one-night stand - to hand over Andie's child to them when born. The movie's early promise fades, however, as an Apatowian crassness descends upon the comic situations, churlishness gets mistaken for rawness, and sweetness starts to feel manipulative instead of natural.
November 7, 2013 | By Nita Lelyveld
The new Melrose Avenue storefront is a man's world, make no mistake. The theme could not be stated more bluntly. Above the front desk: the rusted front end of a 1953 Chevy pickup. Along one wall: a vintage sign whose faded red letters read AUTO. Scotch is ready to pour, pending a liquor license. The lights are dim, the leather chairs deep. This place calls itself the first man cave for … manicures. Its name is Hammer & Nails . It will welcome the hairy-chested public starting Saturday.
September 24, 2013 | By Patrick McGreevy and Melanie Mason
SACRAMENTO - Gov. Jerry Brown signed into law Tuesday a measure sought by celebrities to protect their children's privacy, a bill to extend family leave benefits and a proposal for more earthquake sensors in California. The governor's signature on the privacy measure will make it a misdemeanor to attempt to photograph or videotape a child in a harassing manner if the image is being taken because the child's parent is a celebrity or public official. "Kids shouldn't be tabloid fodder nor the target of ongoing harassment," the bill's author, Sen. Kevin de Leon (D-Los Angeles)
February 25, 1990
Re "Good Manners in the '90s" (Feb. 13): I suggest that Sydney Biddle Barrows and Charlotte Ford take the next available taxi back to charm school. These self-proclaimed etiquette arbiters consider it OK to tell other guests at a dinner party that a guest has AIDS. Could it be that they really have forgotten? The very basis of good manners is respect for the rights and privacy of others. The lack of such consideration for a person with AIDS smacks of a lot of things, none of which is good manners.
September 7, 2013
Re "Fostering compassion in children," Opinion, Sept. 2 About three decades ago, some educators and psychologists sold the public on the ridiculous notion that schools should give students self-esteem. Participation trophies were handed out. Children grew up with the false notion that each of them was the center of the universe. Result: two generations of narcissistic, maladjusted twenty- and thirtysomethings, drifting in the wind because they discovered they are not special or entitled.
May 21, 2013 | By David G. Savage, Los Angeles Times
WASHINGTON - The Supreme Court's two leading conservatives staked out opposite stands Monday over whether judges should play a greater role in second-guessing regulations issued by "unelected bureaucrats" in federal agencies. The divide arose when the court, by a 6-3 vote, upheld a rule adopted by the Federal Communications Commission that says cities and counties must decide within five months whether to approve an application for erecting a new wireless phone antenna. Los Angeles and San Diego had joined two Texas cities in challenging that rule as infringing on their local zoning authority.
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