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April 6, 2000
Jeremy Rifkin's April 3 commentary was one of the most profound I have read in a long time. As a society we now accept relationships based on commerce as exchange of benefit rather than relationships based on connection, shared values, affection and community. Then we wonder why people feel isolated, alienated and driven to addictions of all kinds as a way to fill the hole in the soul. In this society everything is for sale, from the name on a stadium to a person to travel with. How sad for us all. BETTY SHAFFER Tustin
April 27, 2014 | By Victoria Kim, Adolfo Flores and Cindy Chang
V. Stiviano's Instagram feed is full of bling - designer handbags, the interior of a Bentley, glamour shots of herself. But on Sunday morning, she was uncharacteristically shy, hiding behind the door of her $1.8-million Spanish-style duplex near the Beverly Center. She told a reporter she was on her way to church. A photo Stiviano posted on Instagram of herself with Lakers legend Magic Johnson was the main topic of a taped conversation in which a man said to be Clippers owner Donald Sterling asks her not to publicly associate with African Americans.
September 4, 2009 | Melissa Healy, Los Angeles Times
Never mind the perils of cyber-stalking, cyber-bullying and posting photos that could endanger your future job prospects: Facebook could be ruining your relationship and driving you toward compulsively jealous behavior. Social psychologists from the University of Guelph in Canada queried college students who were in romantic relationships about their Facebook use. Their preliminary findings, described in the journal CyberPsychology & Behavior, suggest that rather than enhancing communication between romantic partners, Facebook use may be fueling wild flights of jealous investigation, as users in relationships perceive hints of potential infidelity and then scramble to find evidence of a partner's unfaithful thoughts or behavior.
April 21, 2014 | By Anh Do
Along with its manicured greenbelts and meticulously neat neighborhoods, Irvine suddenly has something else on its hands: an international incident. Members of its vast Chinese American community are fighting a city decision to bow to the demands of Vietnamese Americans, who arrived by the hundreds this month to demand that Irvine abandon its plans to formalize a relationship with a tourist town in coastal Vietnam. A parade of speakers spent hours pleading with council members to reject the proposal, saying it would be insulting for the city to forge a "friendship" with a country they'd fled to escape a brutal communist regime.
July 21, 2010 | By Jeannine Stein, Los Angeles Times
Flawed relationships may cause more than drama — a new study finds that people who feel anxious about relationships or avoid them could be predisposed to certain health problems. The study, published in the July issue of the journal Health Psychology looked at data on 5,645 people who took part in the nationally represented survey of adults ages 18 to 60. Participants were surveyed about their relationships to determine if they had secure attachments (being comfortable depending on others and being close to others)
September 26, 1997 | F. KATHLEEN FOLEY
"Faith," David Hollander's wacky comedy about tortured relationships, puts the "fun" in dysfunction. Among their circle of irredeemably neurotic and narcissistic family members and friends on the Powerhouse Theatre stage, Barb (Nicole Sullivan of "Mad TV") and Phil (Rob Benedict) just might be the most normal. That's not saying much. Apart, Barb and Phil are OK. However, when combined together for household use, they interact like ammonia and bleach.
May 6, 1987 | SUZANNE MUCHNIC, Times Art Writer
All visual art is involved with relationships--of one color to another, a surface to a form, an object to its environment. But these are formal correspondences, not the messy human ones portrayed in a current exhibition simply titled "Relationships." At the Long Beach Museum of Art, where new director Josine Ianco-Starrels has gathered the work of four accomplished Los Angeles artists, we find sweet embraces, tense distances, silent breakfasts and neurotic agitation.
October 11, 1987 | DAN SULLIVAN
A recent comedy advertised itself as "not just another play about relationships." You knew exactly what the ad writer meant. Theater audiences are not dying to see another play in which a young woman comes to terms with her mother, or a young man comes to terms with his gayness, or a long-married couple comes to terms with somebody's infidelity. Those are valid subjects, but they are starting to feel picked over. We seem to know what the actors are going to say before they say it.
April 5, 2008 | Kimi Yoshino, Times Staff Writer
Just six weeks into their romance, 28-year-old Mandy Gresh and her boyfriend decided to take a mini-vacation to Quebec City. She bought airline tickets and reserved a hotel room for the weekend. Then it hit her: They'd be together four straight days. What if they got in a fight? What if a really annoying personality quirk emerged? What if they broke up before they even left? "I was like, 'Oh my god, the trip is as far away as we've been dating,' " Gresh said. "Hopefully nothing goes wrong in the next month because we're both going to be out a lot of money!"
January 13, 2005 | Howard Leff, Special to The Times
You're breathing chilled cigarette smoke and the room's spinning. You're aware of nothing except a piercing headache and the words "Wheel of Fortune" coming from nearby slot machines. It's 3:30 a.m. and you're beyond tired, but your new girlfriend has miles of quarters to go before she sleeps. Actually, you haven't seen her in two hours. New relationships are sweet, but fragile, and there comes a time when you and she must pass the first true test of whether your love will last.
April 18, 2014 | By Mary McNamara, Los Angeles Times Television Critic
Humans are hard-wired to seek symmetry, and nowhere is that more obvious than on TV. From the days of "The Honeymooners" onward, most everything there boils down to pairs. In recent years these have come in three basic varieties: romance, bromance and BFFs. Two people forced to work/live/parent together battle their way through their differences until they become best buddies. A man and a woman bicker and bait each other until they fall in love. Friendships of youth are tested by the twists of time and maturity but invariably prove unbreakable.
April 4, 2014 | By Carolyn Kellogg
Meyer Lansky is one of the gravitational centers of Zachary Lazar's new novel, "I Pity the Poor Immigrant" (Little, Brown and Company: 256 pp., $25). Not so much the dapper, "Boardwalk Empire"-era gangster as Lansky in 1972 in Israel, seeking to retire there under the country's Law of Return. It's hardly the most celebrated era in Lansky's life, but Lazar was going for something other than the obvious. "The initial idea of this book was to put Meyer Lansky in the same room as King David from the Bible," Lazar said via Skype from his home office in New Orleans.
April 3, 2014 | By Sheri Linden
When amateur filmmaker Tom Berninger's rock-star brother Matt, frontman for Brooklyn quintet the National, invited him to be a roadie on his band's biggest tour, Tom had never even been on a tour bus. His lack of experience did not serve him well during his initiation into the business, but a funny thing happened on the way to the concert hall: Tom turned defeat into a documentary that's insightful, sweet and often hilarious. In "Mistaken for Strangers," a fresh revamp of the music-doc template, the National's angsty songs are mere backdrop to a story whose true subjects are sibling love and rivalry and the thorny matter of creative success - here explored through the tension between achievement and striving, or, as one observer puts it, alpha male versus underdog.
March 29, 2014 | By Alana Semuels
Pastors and students in Mississippi are putting pressure on Nissan to remain neutral as the United Automobile Workers try to organize a 5,600-worker plant near Jackson. They're planning marches and protest events with the slogan “Workers' Rights are Civil Rights.” Many say the campaign for better working conditions at the Nissan plant, described in a story in the Los Angeles Times , is a new kind of civil rights struggle. Unions are increasingly turning to outside community groups to help organize workers, labor experts say, especially after the UAW lost a recent key vote at a Volkswagen plant in Tennessee.
March 21, 2014 | By Chuck Schilken
Ivan Lendl has helped Andy Murray reach incredible heights the last two years, as the British tennis star transformed from a four-time Grand Slam runner-up into a two-time major champ and Olympic gold medalist. Now the coach and player are parting ways, with the two announcing their decision with a mutual statement Wednesday on Murray's blog. “I'm eternally grateful to Ivan for all his hard work over the past two years, the most successful of my career so far,” wrote Murray, who returned from back surgery before losing in the quarterfinals at the Australian Open and in the fourth round at Indian Wells this season.
March 20, 2014 | By Inkoo Kang
The steadily affecting relationship drama "Stay" is a great example of how a film can rise above its terrible dialogue. So many phrases out of characters' mouths are as overused and flavorless as a thrice-steeped tea bag, and yet a sturdy narrative structure, increasing thematic complexity and finely detailed performances from Aidan Quinn and Taylor Schilling make writer-director Wiebke von Carolsfeld's sophomore effort an agreeably pensive experience....
May 30, 2013 | By Lisa Wade
In his Op-Ed article this week on hookup culture in college, Bob Laird links binge drinking and casual sex to sexually transmitted diseases, unwanted pregnancies, confusion, low self-esteem, unhappiness, vomiting, ethical retardation, low grades and emotional inadequacy. "How nice of The Times to include this leftover piece from 1957 today," snarked a reader in the online comments.  Fair enough, but Laird is more than out of touch. He also fundamentally misunderstands hookup culture, the relationships that form within it and the real source of the problems arising from some sexual relationships.
July 22, 2007 | Stephanie Simon, Times Staff Writer
The gestures are sweet, but modest: One husband carried his wife's purse. Another made his wife breakfast. And another taped a note to her mirror telling her he liked her haircut. Nothing earth-shattering there. And yet the Roman Catholic Church is counting on publicizing these small acts of everyday kindness to revitalize the institution of marriage.
March 15, 2014 | Larry Sleep, Sleep is president of Lawrence Group, a Santa Barbara-based company
I went to UC Santa Barbara on a baseball scholarship after transferring from Cerritos College. I was a speech major and had a radio show on college station KCSB called "Sleep's Sports Shorts. " I wanted to play pro ball or replace Vin Scully when he retired. (Take all the time you need, Vinny.) Professional baseball scouts' criteria for judging prospects are run, throw, field, hit and hit for power. If there were such a thing for finding the perfect partner in life, my list as a college student would have included great chemistry, ethics, values, intelligence, a sense of humor and love of sports.
March 14, 2014 | By Barbara Isenberg
CHICAGO - When London-born Anna Clyne was 7, friends of her parents gave her family a piano with randomly missing keys. Undeterred, Clyne not only played that piano but by age 11 had written a few little songs for herself and a flute-playing friend. She had fun doing it, she remembers, but "I never thought I would become a composer. " These days, there is no longer any doubt on her part or anyone else's. Her idiosyncratic music has been performed not only at Symphony Center in Chicago but also in Los Angeles' Walt Disney Concert Hall, New York's Carnegie Hall and London's Barbican Centre.
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